Russians Don’t Do Nursing Homes – Abhor the Idea

Russians Don’t Do Nursing Homes – Abhor the Idea by Vera Reid for Russia-Insider

The vast majority of Russians insist parents should be cared for by their children – at all costs. Only in rare cases would this occur, i.e. no kids…

This article originally appeared onRussian Faith, a new website with news about the Christian renaissance in Russia. See their introductory video at end of article.

In America, we have been brought up to consider nursing homes inevitable, like winters in New York. You live your life, as brightly, as vividly as you can, stretching the seams to make youth last as long as possible. But once you are old and gray and senile, you do the right thing and make way for the young.

You’ve had your fun, now let them have theirs. No modern person has time to waste and naturally, everybody hates “leeches.”  So you quietly make your way to the nursing home, not ‘wanting to be a burden to anybody’

Yes, usually it’s horrible, terrifying, lonely. The sense that there is nothing waiting for you, except maybe checkers and visits. And Death. But it’s just the way things are. Everyone is accepting of the common tragedy.

On one of my first visits to Russia, I was talking to a single mother who struggled to support two kids in Moscow. She was also taking care of her senile, sick, and rather difficult father.

I asked her whether she had considered giving him to a nursing home or at least hiring someone to help her take care of him for a small sum.

She, genuinely horrified, said “How? How can I give my Dad away? For some other stranger to change his sheets?”

I remembered her every time I asked Russians about old age and retirement homes. Most of them seemed repulsed by the idea. I then started looking up forums online to see whether it was just people in my circle. Nope. Online, even private nursing homes publicly mourn Russians’ inability to understand the convenience and humanity of nursing homes.

Predominantly, Russians really believe that sending parents to a nursing home is wrong and ungrateful and downright shameful.

Of course, part of this comes from the fact that in Russia, most nursing homes present a deplorable picture. But that’s not the whole story.

Surely if the society believed that this was something they were convinced was necessary, better and more nursing houses would appear to meet the demand.

The fact remains that the people in Russian nursing homes are usually either people without relatives or parents who have cut all ties with their children. Polls in Russia suggest that exponentially more people intend to keep their aging parents at home.

And while Americans tend to use rational and practical language to explain the nursing home phenomenon, Russians will often use emotional and ethical language on the question, using words such as “duty” “love” and “right thing” … rather old-fashioned explanations in our day.

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