Motherhood Abandoned – Part 1 The Lies
Motherhood Abandoned – Part 1 The Lies by Mary Christine for The Burning Platform
“Two go in, one leaves dead, the other one leaves wounded” Anonymous
Time after time, the reason you will be given by virtually every woman who had an abortion is “I had no choice”. Few subjects will invite the kind emotional responses that this one will. It is my contention that abortion is the root from where all the other hot button issues spring forth. Because when we allowed the legalized killing of the unborn, those least able to defend themselves, we opened the door to all the other hot button issues we are dealing with now. Guns, vaccines, LGBT, particularly the transgender issue whereby we are now dealing with misinformation, gas lighting, and outright lies. When it was seen that those tactics were so successful with abortion, the Enemy did not need to invent new tactics if the old ones worked so well. As if that were not enough, some states have legalized abortion up to the time of birth and are considering “post-birth abortion” or infanticide as a legal option.
I have been on both sides of this issue in my lifetime. On April 2, 2019, a postby Doug “Uncola” Lynn about the movie Unplanned generated 300 comments. The movie recounts the experiences of Abby Johnson, a former clinic director for Planned Parenthood. She does not leave out the fact that she had two abortions, one medical and one chemical. She also admits that she stuffed all of her feelings about her abortions deep down in her soul, so that she could go on with her life as she had planned. I know the tactic she used on herself because I used the same tactic to allow myself to pretend that it hadn’t changed me. I was a young high school student, not a college student as she had been. At age 16, with no counseling whatsoever, I decided the best thing for me to do was kill my child(ren). I put that in parenthesis because there is reason to believe I was pregnant with twins.
There are a lot of things in my past I have forgotten the details about, but that is one part of my life where I can tell you nearly every detail about that day. How hot it was that day; the color of the walls of the abortion…I guess it could have been called a clinic but what it really was, was a part of an old segregation hospital that had been abandoned for years. A floor had been re-opened, not renovated mind you, just painted, cleaned and opened for business. I remember what the “doctor” looked like..a space man in scrubs and a facemask. You rarely talk to the doctor, that is a lie they like to tell you, that it is “between a woman and her doctor”. I remember the arguments I had with my mother, well not really arguments because I said very little. It was just her lecturing me as we traveled to and from. I remember what that first night was like…horrible cramping and no pain relief. I could not call for my mother as I would get no sympathy from her. I remember how I felt the next day…exhausted and crying. She asked me why I was crying. “I killed my baby” I told her. “That was my grandchild” she said. We never talked about it again. As far as I know, she never told my father.
The day after that, however, I felt better and I did manage to stuff those feelings deep down inside. For the next 30 years I managed to go about life as if it never happened. But I never forgot. I made that decision because I believed I had no choice.
This essay is not about me in particular but to ask the question “Can we really have an honest conversation about abortion?” The pro-abortion side does not want an honest conversation to take place. It would be bad for business. A women sitting there in the clinic is in a panic and making decisions with only one thought in her mind. I am trapped. How do I get out of this mess now? Right NOW! Alarm bells are going off in her head, she can’t think straight and she has tunnel vision. The abortion clinic “counselor” knows this and exploits it to the maximum.
There are many lies and half-truths floating around that need to be addressed in order for an honest conversation to even begin to take place. First, you must try to remove the emotion from the subject. That is a very hard thing to do because emotions very much play a part in these decisions; even those who have never been there still have strong opinions.
I think the first thing we need to get out of the way is the lie that there is “no choice”. You hear that word a lot from both sides. What do they mean when they use that word, choice? I believe that the abortion clinic wants its clients to believe they have no choice. They want women to believe abortion is their only choice.
When one finds themselves in that predicament, there are actually 3 choices and all of them are hard and not without consequences. The clinic “counselor” may not even bring up two of them and if she does, she will gloss over them and make it seem like they are not really choices at all.
- You can carry the baby and make an adoption plan.
- You can carry the baby and raise the child yourself.
- You can have the abortion and the problem will be solved immediately.
Crisis Pregnancy Centers exist in cities and towns all over the country to help women work through these choices. Admittedly, some are better than others. No one dies when they walk out of one unless she walks right into an abortion clinic afterword. In my area, Advice and Aid Pregnancy Center has been in business since 1983. When they acquired an ultrasound machine their success rate with preventing women from having an abortion skyrocketed to over 80%. That is why the abortion clinic does not allow the client to see their ultrasound. Advice and Aid will give a woman the latest information about abortion procedures. If the women still insists on having an abortion, she can literally walk across the parking lot to Planned Parenthood and schedule the procedure. If she decides to carry, they will walk with her in that venture until the child turns 3 years old if, she so desires.
Each one of those choices will have consequences attached to them. The clinic “counselor” may or may not talk about 1 and 2, if they do, they will barely touch on them because their existence depends on their clients always picking number 3. They will always turn the conversation to abortion and be as vague as possible about the procedure and the after affects. To understand why they continue to lie, I think it is necessary to understand a bit about the history of legalized abortion in the United States. It was founded on lies and can only continue to operate by lying. I will confine the history to a summary related to the twentieth century only.
Planned Parenthood was founded by a group of eugenicists headed by Margaret Sanger with the help of Emma Goldman, Rose Pastor Stokes, Fania Mindell, and Ethel Byrne just to name a few. Their political views are quite interesting and if you are a history buff, I encourage you to look further into their political beliefs. In 1922 the Planned Parenthood name was adopted for her birth control and “family planning” clinics and she expanded to high-minority low income areas.
“Despite Sanger’s belief that birth control creates a door for the eugenicist, the two movements had yet to formally connect. This was due to the fact that Sanger was a strong advocate of negative eugenics, not positive eugenics (Black 135). She was a die-hard feminist and liberal sex crusader that thought multiple children were a chain and ball on female independence (Grant 73-75). But as post-World War II eugenicists searched for avenues to funnel their vice, Planned Parenthood became a worthy candidate.
During the early forties, Margaret Sanger instituted The Negro Project. The goal was to pull African American leaders and preachers into the movement so as to make the black community embrace the concepts birth control. In a letter she wrote to her cohort Dr. Clarence Gamble, she said, “we do not want word to go out that we want to exterminate the Negro population, and the minister is the man who can straighten out the idea if it ever occurs to any of their more rebellious members” (Green “Web of Deceit”).
In a speech Frederick Osborn gave at the annual Galton Lecture in 1956, he said, “Let’s stop telling everyone that they have generally inferior genetic qualities for they will never agree. Let’s base our proposals on the desirability of having children in homes where they will get affectionate and responsible care, and perhaps our proposals will be accepted” and that from this rebirth we may “see [eugenics] moving at last toward the high goals which Galton set for it” (Cavanaugh-O’Keefe, The Roots Chapter Ten).”
While the effort to widely dispense birth control and legalize abortion is tied together, the subject of birth control must be set aside for the time being. In the mid 1960’s, after the birth control pill became widely available, Planned Parenthood would turn its focus to legalize abortion and so began a propaganda campaign like none other seen before.
Americans were subjected to an array of myths about illegal abortions. Stories of butchers who preyed on women in back alleys and women dying from self-inflicted wounds from coat hangers and knitting needles were made up and widely disseminated. Statistics in the tens of thousands of deaths from these back alley or self-inflicted abortions were used to convince people that illegal abortion was a plague upon society that had to be ended.
Two attorneys who were looking for a case to use to overturn the abortion laws found Norma McCorvy aka Jane Roe. Ms. McCorvy later regretted her part in it and recanted everything in her testimony that was used in the landmark case.
“The affidavit submitted to the Supreme Court didn’t happen the way I said it did, pure and simple. I lied! Sarah Weddington and Linda Coffey needed an extreme case to make their client look pitiable. Rape seemed to be the ticket. What made rape even worse? A gang rape! It all started out as a little lie, but my little lie grew and became more horrible with each telling.
Not only did I lie, but I was lied to. I did not come to the Supreme Court on behalf of a class of women. I wasn’t pursuing any legal remedy for my unwanted pregnancy. I did not go to the federal courts for relief. I met with Sarah Weddington to find out how I could obtain an abortion…. Sarah and Linda were looking for somebody, anybody, to use to further their own agenda. I was their most willing dupe.
Since all these lies succeeded in dismantling every state’s protection of the unborn, I think it’s fair to say that the entire abortion industry is based on a lie”
So what about those statistics that said women were dying by the tens of thousands because abortion was illegal? Live Action studied this particular question and reported back:
“It is difficult to find credible estimates of the number of deaths associated with illegal abortion. One estimate, which has been frequently quoted, is between 5,000 and 10,000 deaths per year. That is hardly plausible, considering that the total number of deaths of women aged 15-44 from all causes in the United States is approximately 50,000 annually, and the total number of deaths due to abortion reported by the National Center for Health Statistics (NCHS) has been below 500 since 1958 and below 100 since 1971.
Planned Parenthood’s own Medical Director, Mary Calderone, proclaimed in 1959 that “abortion was no longer a dangerous procedure because it was being committed by competent physicians. They must do a pretty good job if the death rate is as low as it is. Whatever trouble arises usually comes after self-induced abortions, which comprise approximately 8 per cent, or with the very small percentage that go to some kind of nonmedical abortionist.”
The Guttmacher Institute states that in 1930 there were 2700 deaths from abortions. The death rate had dropped to half that by 1940 and continued a downward trend, widely attributed to the use of antibiotics, so that by 1967 the death toll had dropped to 167.
Who is responsible for those highly inflated numbers that were used in the Roe v Wade court case? That person is Dr. Nathan Abramson, the founder of the National Abortion Rights Action League (NARAL). Propagating the myth that as many as 10,000 women a year were dying from “back alley abortions” was essential to convince seven justices that legalized abortion would be the only way to save the lives of women who would certainly die if they ruled against it. Dr. Abramson later admitted inflating those numbers in his book The Abortion Papers. Those figures were chosen because they were a “nice, round shocking figure”.